Remember when you were a kid and someone you were playing with hurt your feelings? Maybe they took your toy, called you a cooty-head, or they got mad and hit you. If their parent saw them, and they were a descent parent, they came over and at least scolded the kid that hurt you and then (here is the key word) MADE them say they were “Sorry”. And they said “Sorry”, but it was in a half-hearted way while looking at the ground. They did not mean it, you knew they did not mean it, and their parent knew they did not mean it. The word was used to quickly resolve the situation and move on. Why does saying “Sorry” not seem to solve the issue? The answer: The issue is not one of being “Sorry”, instead the issue is our resistance in asking for “Forgiveness”. Saying Sorry is just one of those relational Games People Play.
This week in our Games People Play series we will look at the difference between being sorry and asking for forgiveness, the steps we need to take to forgive when we are hurt, and how to go about asking for forgiveness when we are the ones who have done the hurting.